Dating for black women

08 Feb

My non-black friends typically receive right swipes from every Tom, Dick and Harry.

If I have to weed out f*ckboy BS, I prefer to do it in person.

However, if I ever venture back to the Internet for a date, I'll stick to the kind (like BAE) with less racial bias.

While I love the fact that black women have tailored dating options with this app, it's just not my thing. Even Twitter can double as a dating site if you play your DMs right.

But, the cheesy lines about how gorgeous I am and the guy who spelled "together" as "2gether" reaffirmed my deep disdain for finding a mate online.

Most conversations started off as casual small talk, but quickly became banal.

The worst of them revealed just how awkward and unfunny men can be toward women they don't know.

They see my delight in swiping, an activity most of them find boring or even disheartening at this point, as refreshing.

But I've never actually been on a dating app as myself, a black woman. Yes, online dating seems fun from where I'm standing, but I think doing it as a woman of color would damage my faith in humanity.

I prefer reading a person's vibes IRL, striking up an easy exchange over Jameson shots or meeting in the pasta aisle at Whole Foods.

Additionally, men tend to be way more predatory behind the safety of a computer screen, which completely turns me off to digital dating.

Swiping through friends' dating apps gives me a legal high.